I am reading an interesting book called Mating in Captivity. It talks about how intimacy/closeness/security can easily cause a lack of lust/passion/erotic pleasure in a marriage.
In the book the author talks about ways that some couples balance the security of a close intimate marriage against the fear, uncertainty and erotic passion of sex with someone you are not 100% sure of. She has some suggestions for couples on how to pump up the mystery so as to increase the passion.
One of the things that doing a 180 may be doing is not only changing the historic dynamic balance, but also adding a little mystery to a relationship.
I haven't finished the book yet, but what I have read so far is pretty interesting.
On another note, HDwife might want to ask her husband get his testosterone level checked the next time he goes in for a medical appointment. There are a surprising number of men with low T levels and it can be a signal for all kinds of bad things from low bone density to diebetes.
Good luck.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
