Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Hey mish!!!

I think, without even reading the book, my 'love language' is certainly, acts of service, and hers affection. So yes, to her, intimacy is HUGE, and I realize that 100%. We're just both so darn wore out. Soooo, when she isn't getting that attention in that department, she feels rejected. Much the same as if I don't receive some type of appreciation for things I do for her, I end up feeling rejected and taken advantage of. She knows that now and we're, well, a work in progress.

Bottom line is, she said how she feels, instead of keeping it bottled up. In turn I got a chance to say I was concerned about it too and concerned she'd feel that way. So we both know we're on the same page, and most importantly, communicating it.

On the kids, both boys are reacting differently. S11 is latched to me and disrepectful still to (x)W, but then again, her communication skills with him is an area for improvement. S13 on the other hand, is just acting out. I strongly believe over confusion of OM. I neglected to mention, I have found in (x)W's phone, S13 has texed OM asking him what he was doing, OM has not replied, which is good. Unfortunately with his condition, [effective] communication with anyone is difficult.

On that note, I also forgot to post earlier, when we at the police department the other night, (x)BIL from downstate called (x)W a couple of time, then me. When we got out, (x)W called him as it seemed important, but (x)BIL just wanted to let her know he was in the process of moving into the house they had down there, switched the bills over and all, so OM has NO need to have anything to do with anyone at all and (x)W were taling about it again this morning on the drive to work and she did not speak kindly of OM in the slightest bit.

I AM requesting that his number be deleted from her phone effective immediately so that S13 no longer has access of any sort, weither OM responds or not. The less he sees or knows of OM, the less he'll think of him.

The boys will either have a sleep over with friends tonight or stay with their uncle and watch movies or something. Either way, we won't leave til late so that S13 will either already be asleep or on his way to sleep to aleviate any worry of him doing something out of line.