Well, I'm not surprised H objected to the ADD diagnosis. It took my H 6 months to finally come around and accept it and start treatment for his depression. I still think it's a real possibility given what you've written here, but I would try to read about it more and see if it does fit for your H given all that you know. If so, maybe you could try to show him proof. (I found round about ways to show H the symptoms of depression and it finally sunk in, but of course everyone is different). You could even try the "an acquaintance of mine H had it, so I looked into it more, and look at this, this is why you could be feeling this way, etc etc" routine. Unfortunately, in general, it seems that men need to discover these things on their own to actual believe in them, but if we can just lead them in the right direction...
In general, I'm normally all for just letting things roll off your back when rude comments are made, but honestly, "in case you cared". OMG, that was not called for. I'm glad you stood up for yourself. It seemed to knock him back to reality a bit. It was good b/c it let you reestablish your feelings for him but show that you were not going to let him bully you around with mean comments either. Good for you. Also good that he acknowledged that he was being a jerk and apoligized for it.
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
