Well, after 5 years of marriage I've had enough. Filed for separation. Married late, and took some risks marrying someone from a much different background who would rather spend time with her friends and with her hobbies than being a wife. She is just a fair mother; I'll never get custody in the state where we currently reside (favors mothers 95% of the time) despite her uncleanliness and leaving kids unattended several times. She has no drug/alcohol abuse issues, which are about the only silver bullet for fathers winning custody where we reside. Have been advised to not even seek custody by four different lawyers.
Wife comes from a background where father wasn't around, raised by grandparents. Does not respect me now, and never has. I wish it had not taken over five years to come to my sense.Now, I can only hope to meet someone who wants to have a family and is capable of putting her husband and the family first.
In my mid-thirties now, I can only hope that there is time to recover and have a happy life with a good wife and children...
These days it seems so hard to choose that special someone wisely. Many women seem argumentative or greedy. I chose poorly. Hope to find some resources on these forums to help get me past the current situation, although I've already made the decision to split (second separation, not going to go through this again).
I'm going to apologize right up front for sounding like a b*tch but wow........
as far as the bolded parts above......
1. She is just a fair mother; I'll never get custody in the state where we currently reside (favors mothers 95% of the time) despite her uncleanliness and leaving kids unattended several times.
Where were you when the children were left unattended? What do you mean by uncleanliness exactly?
2. Does not respect me now, and never has. I wish it had not taken over five years to come to my sense.
Five WHOLE years huh? It doesn't appear from your posts that you garner much respect based on how you talk about your wife. I'm glad you gave it five whole years. Your children will appreciate that sacrifice as well. I'm sure of that.
3. Now, I can only hope to meet someone who wants to have a family and is capable of putting her husband and the family first.
This goes back to my previous post. I hope that for your sake and your future wife's sake that you choose to be introspective and realize that it does indeed take 2 people for a marriage to thrive or fail. One party is not solely to blame, ever. The sooner you recognize your part in the failed marriage (if you choose to allow it to fail...) the better.
4. Many women seem argumentative or greedy.
You might want to readjust your thinking. I don't think it will get you very far in the dating world.... I could say most men are @$$holes and liars....
***** I really do hope that you look inside yourself and realize that you might have had some part in the failure or success of your marriage. You are at a spot where you can still succeed but you really need to evaluate your part in it. And the victim role as far as not seeing your children.......when you are saying you are choosing to end the marriage, well the victim role kinda doesn't work too well for me. You are choosing to leave the marriage. *****
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