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[awest1217]

Actually I don't have a position either way. If he decides to leave there will be a lot of stuff to do, but I won't ever have to deal with him and OW again. I will be free at some point to find another man who will treat me right, unlike H for 10 years. If he decides to come home, I think I would like it more, but there would always be that fear that he never really got rid of OW because he is so secretive and I know he won't give that up any time soon. So honestly I am ok with either and maybe even hoping for him to not come home, although that would hurt my heart, I think I am leaning that way because I will then be protecting myself.

Funny story. A student was just talking about how her boyfriend was cheating on her and I let her know "dump him and move on". SHe is a sophomore in high school. I said you deserve better and he is not going to change any time soon so just grieve the loss and find someone who will respect you.

Other point. A little sad today because today is the 19th anniversary of the day my dad passed away. IT is a long story, but it was very traumatic for me because the day before he died we were playing at my grandparents in the snow and the next he died and my family watched it happen. He had the flu (the docs were supposed to do extra tests due to losing his spleen when he was young, but they didn't). It got into his blood and he turned blue. I spent the day watching my dad die, then right after that I became the mother of my little brother and sister. My mom was still there, but she was never a strong independent woman so she couldn't handle it well. I stepped in being the big sister. She was still the mother, but I was there more to help out and listen. WIth my little sister, I was the disciplinarian. It definitely changed my life. I wonder if H even remembers...probably not, but that is ok. I think it bothers me more now because if he were alive, lets just say H would have been hurting, my dad was all italian and you don't mess with his little girl.