I refuse to answer that question on the grounds you will make me quit something I LOVE!
I truly admire your ability to dig your M out of the shambles it was in... I need to re-read your ENTIRE set of threads! Bolster some courage!!!
M -
Ha! Zumba! One time at a soccer game they had the Zumba dancers there performing at half-time. It looks like a blast! Something tells me that "G" would be better at it than us Midwest girls!
I laughed at your top obvious comment!
Pearl -
You naughty girl! I'm reading, at the recommendation of newmama, Art of Seduction. I truly think I forgot HOW! Between being paralyzed in fear of rejection, lacking courage to move on, and not loving my "size" - all time low of attraction! But, look out, things are a changin'!!
BTW - I think I'm down a few more lbs, too!! Did the three mile walk w/the dog this am. Tomorrow, the third run in the first week set of Couch to 5k!!! Yippee!
I'm going to a birthday lunch for a friend today, with a fun group, at my favorite place. Yea! And, maybe to the Varisty Boys bball game tonight w/friends.
Had a bit of a rough start to the day this am w/D18, and this time, it wasn't her fault, MINE... Things are looking up!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Ha! Zumba! One time at a soccer game they had the Zumba dancers there performing at half-time. It looks like a blast! Something tells me that "G" would be better at it than us Midwest girls!
Sorry, nope... I'm not into that "chicken" stuff. The hip movement is extremely favorable though.
Mindfull, do you wish they had "cliff notes" for A of S? Have you identified the type of seducer you are and what kind of "victim" your H is? You don't have to tell us, but I was just wondering if you figured that part out yet! ;-)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I truly believe that my initiating was a turning point for our sitch.
Can you share at what stage that happened?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Between being paralyzed in fear of rejection, lacking courage to move on, and not loving my "size" - all time low of attraction! But, look out, things are a changin'!!
mind, you ARE beautiful, and you MUST believe that. God created us all different and all beautiful. He did not create us to look like our best friend, or our neighbor, or the girl in the magazine. Just the fact that you are taking care of yourself in a physical way shows how beautiful and wonderful you are. THAT is what is important. Start loving yourself, because that is a HUGE part in bringing your H "home". If you cannot love YOU, how will he be able to?
And when you start loving YOU, inside and out, then you will be more confident with H, and you will eliminate your fear.
"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."
and, you better start reducing those drinks to HALF a day. I will give you that for now. okay, I just looked up coke zero. that is ASPARTAME! that is the bad stuff. of course each side will tell it's own story, but was supposedly discovered by a scientist that licked his finger at some point while in the making of rat poison, and he noticed it was a nice sweet taste. I have read testimonies of people with lupus, along with my good friend who knew someone that had fibro (or another auto-immune disease) and for years didn't know how to treat it, and then one day quit drinking diet drinks, and it went away.
also, if your trying to lose weight, I would suggest to quit the diet stuff. My friend, a PT, told me that what happens when you drink diet drinks (unless your eating at the same time) that you body will be telling you "this is sweet, I must produce insulin for the sugar" but there IS no sugar, so the body goes searching, and it tells your brain, "eat, we need sugar!"
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
okay, I just looked up coke zero. that is ASPARTAME! that is the bad stuff. of course each side will tell it's own story, but was supposedly discovered by a scientist that licked his finger at some point while in the making of rat poison, and he noticed it was a nice sweet taste. I have read testimonies of people with lupus, along with my good friend who knew someone that had fibro (or another auto-immune disease) and for years didn't know how to treat it, and then one day quit drinking diet drinks, and it went away.