TTA, No expectations. I think you are right that he SEEMS to be trying. I think there CAN be hope in that. Here's my debbie downer.... its barely been 6 weeks. Anyone can do anything for that amount of time. He is moving in the right direction with some of his actions - but don't read into them. He may determine through these actions that the marriage isn't right for him - please prepare yourself for this. You DON'T KNOW what will happen on his journey. I think you know this... I'm not sure you believe it yet... but knowing is the first step.
Just make sure you stay stand-offish in this. I'm not saying to totally ignore him... but protect your PMA. Just be happy to be you, living your life, growing into a wonderful you.
His actions MAY BE signs of good things to come, but there hasn't been enough time for you to know that yet. Taking them as anything but what they are would be a huge leap right now - despite some of the comments to the contrary. You CANNOT know what his actions mean yet and so you need to only think about you. If he REALLY wants to restore your M - he will work hard to do so no matter what is going on with you. Be civil, be kind, but be cautious. It will garner you respect.
(((TTA)))
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