are you looking for pats on the back for leaving? abandoning your wife and children? for taking care of the kids at night when you get home from work?
If you work during the day and your wife is home with the kids, why do you find the notion that she would like to get out and be with her friends sometimes something to not understand?
Are you looking for a June Cleaver wife?
holy cow... how dare she have interests outside serving you and your children
if you want a maid, hire one. If you want a nanny, hire one. If you want a partner, start looking inside yourself and see where you can work on who you are so that you can celebrate who your wife is instead of being threatened by it