It might not be the action that others might expect to see, but if it is enough to convince your mind and heart, you're probably doing the right thing to give your M a fighting, not waiting, chance.
I felt great doing the monologue with my W. Telling her what I had been feeling, getting out some old pins and needles from the past. I didn't get a chance to hear her side of things, and I didn't want to - I was afraid it might lead into a fight or a comparison of who was hurt more or some junk like that. Still, I know that she needs that too.
In your long conversation, did you talk about your feelings and thoughts? Was there anything you said that was of the 'old' W or was it the more assertive and goal directed W of today?
I hope you don't fall asleep during the day! You *might* have a busy night, too.
