I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[Gnosis]

Quart, in this case I'd listen to your lawyer. Lawyering up is one of the first things I did in my sitch -- and it's the best thing I did. Finding out where I stood legally is what helped me formulate my long-term plan and strategy.

With your W's current emotional state, her obsession with OM and pursuing her fantasy and her threats -- taking out a RO against you would be highly likely. Once she lawyers-up herself and finds out that it would save her paying you support the odds are pretty high that she will do it.

Q, I'd like you to face a little reality here. The success rate of turning a WAW around is MUCH lower than that of turning a WAH around. With that in mind I'd go with what your L suggested and file first for a few reasons:

(1) to prevent the damage of an RO being filed
(2) to ensure the payment of support so that you can complete your studies
(3) she is holding D as an axe to your head - filing first removes the power she holds over you.

Something to bear in mind is that filing does not mean the end of the marriage. Another benefit to doing it is the psychological boost you get by taking back some control.

One more thing: YOU DO NOT TELL HER YOU ARE GOING TO DO IT.... DON'T SAY A WORD TO HER, JUST DO IT... and have her served. Sure she will be mad and spitting venom for the first few days. And that's good because her mind will be on you and "HOW DARE HE!" instead of on the OM and how wonderful he is.

During this time you go NO CONTACT and completely dark. Switch off your phones. Ignore all emails. Ignore all texts. Let her obsess over you for a change.