Hey K... you are sounding like you feel.. negative. I think, C's are there to support us, she sounds very "person centred" type counselling.. she let the session go in whatever direction it needed to the last twice. So, you expressed your unhappiness and doubt things will ever change and.. she supported that and validated! They only have to go on what you tell them and the way you paint it, it does make us all wonder.. do you really WANT this guy as your H? But it seems that you do love him, so...
When he told you that he is away on the 3rd (ignoring the connection to ow, just the fact he is away for your bd).. what did YOU say in response? How did you react? Did you say, ahhh.. thats a shame, I am disappointed, I wanted us to dress up..go out, go dancing with friends...? If you did say anything, what was his reply? Did you say.. ok, so WHEN do you want to take me out instead then, another night?
Or.. is this another time you "let him off the hook"?
He did tell you he appreciates and loves you and you are his only woman, that affects him and he listens to in that letter? But no.. he doesnt say it to your face. Have you asked him why not??
Have you asked him how it would feel if you didnt arrange anything at all for his birthday and not even the day before or after, if you had to work?
Have you asked him how he would feel if you had ignored Valentines Day?
Have you asked him if he has 'forgiven' you yet (forgive and forget) about your dalliance last summer?
What do you guys talk about !???
Sorry, lol, feeling a bit stumped lately. My feeling is.. you continue to be ambivalent about this R/your chances and like animals can smell fear.. maybe he is picking up on it and is equally discouraged!!? I still have this image in my minds eye of you two standing in adjoining rooms with a softly closed connecting door.
xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
