She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

No I haven't been gone since 2007, but this is my first time in a combat zone. She really feels like she's lost herself, and she's starting to get some of that back.

We have a mobile home that we rent out. The tenants have moved out. Following is an email she sent: "That is a great thing. I am already going to do some trade out work for to purchase new vinyl and carpet for the trailer. I am going up this week or next to sign paperwork for the lot rent and I will cancel the renters insurance with State Farm. We have to pay for it anyway, so I will stay up there while you have your 4 weeks off. I will get the trailer in habitable living conditions for me and the girls and take a few pieces of furniture. I will take the futon and the wooden entertainment center and the tv from our bedroom. Sheets and bedding for the futon is all I need for now. I want you to stay at the house so we don’t uproot the kids at this point. You need to rest from the sand and be able to come back to your house. I will be busy with work and getting the trailer fixed up. Anyway, I think it is good news and it gives us options as to where to stay. I will talk to you tonight."

This sounded bad to me at first, but it does give us some options. Gives her a chance to continue with her individual counseling and work on herself. She also says that we have to pay for it anyway, so why not fix it up. She want's to do the work for her confidence and stay there while she does it. She also mentioned that we may rent it out again one day, and the work needs to be done first.

I now see this as a potential positive. No marriage is going to be fixed over night. It's going to take time, and this affords us the time. maybe after the 4 weeks we can start co-counseling and see where it takes us. She has a counseling session scheduled for next week, and she's really excited.

I look forward to her getting the help she needs, and me to whenever I finally get home. The reality is that we're obviously going to separate when I get home. Only time will tell how long that's going to be. I will keep doing what I need to do to make sure we have an opportunity for repair, and that I give her the required space. Our talks have bben short, but good. I can't wait to get home and start this process. It's so hard being so far away.