I think our marriage is on the mend.

[flowmom]

June, when I peek in on the piecers, it seems like mending the marriage is no picnic. DBing is about giving the marriage a chance, but once the marriage has a chance there's no magic wand to fix the original problems, and all the ones created by the threat of D.

Are you in IC? You need a safe place to talk about the hurt, and it sounds like your H can't be there for you in that way yet. And realistically, most men could not really be there for a woman who needs to keep talking it through until the pain has eased. You're at a stage where you need to share - check - share with your H...show a little vulnerability, but retreat if you're not getting the reaction that you need/want.

take care...