What you're feeling seems reasonable to me. You have fought a long hard battle. Maybe he needs to be paniced. He needs to prove his love to you now.
Remember though, the battle is not over. It's just beginnnig. Should the maariage keep rebuilding, it's going to need to be maintained... forever.
It's going to take you some time to begin to trust again, and I hope to God he does more than his fare share of the work. He may not show his remorse all at once either, but be sorry about different things over time.
