I don't post too much on the other threads just read them.

SHOOT!!!SHE WAS ALWAYS WORRIED ABOUT MONEY!!!!

We made money, BUT I WAS THE ONE THAT MADE THE DECISIONS AND SHE PAID FOR THEM.

Dang it to flipping heck, she mentioned it, I knew it and did not take the responsibility from her.

That was one of my big regrets that we didn't save better, we were always behind the 8 ball or so she felt, I would just make more then accelerate the note, i was already missing out on the kids, so i was putting for she and i's future when the kids would be gone.

And i did, i did refi the house yrs ago without talking to her first, i did set up life insurance policies, savings accts,seperate checking accts, now the intentions were good, but see i made a decision without knowing or fearing the budget. AND THAT DEAL I DO FULLY TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY FOR, i wanted out of the car business so bad, still do, that I wanted stuff paid off so could do something as a family.I OWN THAT ONE, so it makes sense she isn't being gold digger, her dad hid money during his divorce, i haven't, not a cent, but she knew and I felt. She knew how much money going out, I just felt how much money going out.

That is definately something that I tried to fix, when all heck broke loose btw, but didn't realize what i was in for. at that time divorce wasn't an option it was ayk i want a lower hse payment and lower bills, i dropped the nfl ticket, refi'd the house, drew from my ira and paid off stuff, then she turned it into i had money the whole time, she was and is confused about an ira, this wasn't hidden money, it was a 401k rollover, that i did want to cash out more than once to pay stuff off and eachtime advised not to.

well last summer when stuff started to hit with her, i was screw it, i'll go broke before she goes nuts and we(kids and i) lose her.

Too late.other than cashing the ira, i would have still refi'd house and paid off her student loan.

the cc and tax money i had set aside, well wouldn't have paid off cc and the tax money, i would have kept it where it was, because now it's all gone, she spent it in 33 days.