No longer sitting on the fence

[motherof3]

OK, now that you've come to your senses, we can really get to work here...

Maybe I am just crazy.

I'm the QUEEN of getting a M back to friendly, so I can help w/this... we'll need to bring in the next PHASE expert to help from there on out, though... we can both take notes, then!!

Lordy, lordy. Look out!

I think, in keeping w/your coaches advice, that you'll need to start w/a different mindset.

I completely agree.

You need to do this (almost) exclusively FOR YOU. YOU have loved him all of these years, YOU took your vows, and YOU have chosen to ride this "storm" out.

I think deep down I really do want this for me. Doing this for the kids is just an excuse. Does that make any sense?

So, the C comment... I can't mindread him, but can tell you, that if it were MY H IF he had the courage to even agree to, let alone bring up C for one of our kids, he would want me to take the reigns on this one. He'd want me to LEAD in this effort, as, even though he equally shares parenting responsibility (when he's in town), it really comes down to MOM's IN CHARGE, and has her finger on the pulse... And, he's agreeing to YOUR idea.

I have been digesting H's comment and I am starting to wonder if I just didn't hear what he was trying to tell me. Maybe he suggested that S4 and I go to C because I am the one on the receiving end of all S4's aggression. Regardless, I think that you are right in that H opened the door to my original request and I do need to take the lead on this.

Do you EVER see each other at drop off or pick up?

Kid exchanges consist of me dropping the kids off at daycare or school and H picking them up. Or vice versa. We rarely come F2F with each other.

... lets' talk about how to keep bumping up the conversations, as they come.

I have some ideas. But for the time being I do not plan on initiating any conversations until Sunday night. Sunday I would like to get him on the phone to inquire about the funeral. I just need to figure out how to do it gracefully.

I'm so proud of you.

Thanks mom.

Now that you've decided, though. Let's step out of the box w/warmth, genuine interest, and some playfulness!

Team huddle. Hands in. Okay. Goooooo Teeeamm!

Thanks MF.