In Virginia you cannot force either spouse to pay for anything after the child turns 18, so the onloy way you can get college tuition covered is if you both agree to it and include it in your settlement. My X refused. said he would not commit to somethng like that when he didn't know what his financial circumstances might be. He knew damn well he would be living in a 2 income home, because that plan was already in motion. I was willing to committ to it even though I make less than half what he does. He is an A$$!!! I pay for car insurance, cell phone, any medical expenses, such as new glasses, contact lenses, etc. He has done things like buy a battery for her car, and then he looks like the hero. I am fortunate that my two older girls were good soccer players and got scholarships. D19's first year in college (when the financial aid was based on my income and there were 2 in college) all she owed was about $350 per semester. I paid it. Last year it was a little over $1000, and I didn't have it so she had to take a loan...after asking me numerous times if I could pay it. I finally got pissed and asked her if she asked him....nope. She wouldn't even ask him....She actually said to me, well dad gives you all that support money (he has drilled that one onto their heads). So I will not talk money with them anymore. I pay the monthly expenses, don't ask me for more, I am not the one buying a freaking 2nd house!! And he has bad mouthed me to them for the past few years, he even told our 11 year old daughter that he gives me so much money and I spend it on myself. Luckily the 11 year old came ot me and we talked about it and she didn't buy it. She is actually the most clear headed when it comes to him. She sees right through his crap. I think it is because she got out from under his control at a fairly young age. He has messed the older two girls heads up quite a bit!
Okay, sorry for the rant....guess I needed to get that out! LOL
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