The no expectations is for us then, just like the space is for us then. Then both people get what they want without any pressure?
I think I answered my own question, just like the two people i talked to that went into mlc, once it hit them, but it was their ah ha moment, things got better and both wanted their relationships back, one the lbs said no, the other had hung in there. the difference being probably one was a pastor with kids, the other not a pastor and no kids, but both wanted back in and the lbs made the decision.
The decision is on us whether or not we want them or the relationship back and get a life in the mean time?
It gives us an opportunity to decide if our marriage or lives were all we thought it was cracked up to be too.
Is that correct?
even the ic says i am very intense, because i do i run things over and over in my mind until i figure them out and when i do latch on to something, i don't let it go and this is one case where if i don't let go, i am not going to get what i and the kids want and i am , i am asking for a guarantee and there isn't one, shoot, darn it, man she knew she came first.
what really stinks, is kid time, family time, money, we both have the same regrets and had some of the same stress', just hers were and i know now were more extreme than she had ever let on or she did and i didn't listen correctly
