My problem is that when I am in panic mode, or mad being treated this way, I badger. It's a dynamic.
This isn't just you. It's classic male-female behavior. Called pursuer-avoider in some communication books. Look it up. You might have had a worse case of it after years of engaging in it, but my H and I got caught up in pursuer-avoider too. The compromise is supposed to be whoever gets "flooded" calls a time out, but the discussion needs to be rescheduled or else the time out just becomes a tool to avoid talking about anything ever. Or something like that.
