No longer sitting on the fence

[mindfull]

M -

OK, now that you've come to your senses, we can really get to work here...

I'm the QUEEN of getting a M back to friendly, so I can help w/this... we'll need to bring in the next PHASE expert to help from there on out, though... we can both take notes, then!!

Who would have known you would be so methodical w/your approach? You are so tried and true, M....

In order to accomplish your two weeks goals, I think you're going to need to push aside the "check that off the list" mentality (WHICH I LOVE, BTW). I think, in keeping w/your coaches advice, that you'll need to start w/a different mindset.

I mention your mindset because, TRUST ME, you don't want to do this FOR THE KIDS first. My H and I (under duress!) are doing this FOR THE KIDS. And, you've heard enough of my whining to know, that just sucks. You need to do this (almost) exclusively FOR YOU. YOU have loved him all of these years, YOU took your vows, and YOU have chosen to ride this "storm" out. YOU need to let go of any of the sh#t you're carrying around about/surrounding him, and ACT AS IF he has the kids AND your best intentions at heart.

So, the C comment... I can't mindread him, but can tell you, that if it were MY H IF he had the courage to even agree to, let alone bring up C for one of our kids, he would want me to take the reigns on this one. He'd want me to LEAD in this effort, as, even though he equally shares parenting responsibility (when he's in town), it really comes down to MOM's IN CHARGE, and has her finger on the pulse... And, he's agreeing to YOUR idea.

So, let's just assume he's living w/a pure intentioned heart.

Next, let's really work on the effort... I realize you have barely talked, let alone, seen him for a long time. Do you EVER see each other at drop off or pick up? IF SO, let's plan something surrounding that... And, IF NOT, lets' talk about how to keep bumping up the conversations, as they come.

I'm so proud of you.

Now that you've decided, though. Let's step out of the box w/warmth, genuine interest, and some playfulness!