This situation is awful. It is one of the biggest stressors anyone can imagine. I remember not sleeping for DAYS at a time and looking like a Bataan Death March survivor at best. It blo&s! Totally disfunctional. I didn't care if I lived or died, and on one night in March of 2006, I tried to choose death, just to make the pain go away (as you know) I'm surprised more people in our sitch don't get more serious diseases such as cancer on a more frequent basis (we actually may....might be a doctoral study there!)
Sorry about the stress and the crappy diet. I'm having a glass of wine in your honor right now! (sorry!)
