C-bart, Thanks for checking in, I am doing pretty good today. Had to fight some emotions this morning on the way to work. It seems that when I get in the car to come to or drive home from work I run through the emotions.
I did pretty good this morning, put on some Bob Marley rolled back the sun roof and for 30 minutes this morning I was on the beach in St. Barth's in the caribbean with a bucket of Coronas. It has definitely set the tone for the day. Tonight I get to watch my D13 play in her first school soccer game, I am really looking forward to this but the temp. will be far from coronas and Bob Marley. Temp. at game time 8pm will be 40 with wind chill of 5 to 10 below that.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Kemper just left and he is going to think I am a big ole liar b/c I told him I was not going to post on my thread until I saw more from my W. Kemper and I get together about once or twice a week and kill some beers at my place or local bar, yes it is nice having a fellow DBer live around the corner.
Tell Kemper hello for me, he had some very cogent insightful advice on my sitch early on in my arrival at seperated. Looking forward to his return to the boards if it's in the cards.
Any positive developments how ever samll are better than the status quo and you are wise to keep your expectations in check. No need to to take another shot to the chin when it can be avoided.
I think it is good (relatively speaking) that you are quite certain your wife is in a MLC. At least this gives you a clearer idea of what she is going through and how to approach it. I can't definitively make that call with respect to my W although she exhibits many of the MLC signs. I screwed the pooch in so many ways that she also has a strong case at being a standard WAW.
I'll do my best to send you positive vibes that your sitch continues to show additional encouraging signs.
Ditto on the support front from you and all the others. I'll be in touch.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)
That is some great advice on the the Bob Marley! I feel warmer already. The challenge I find is that as the old ways of coping with anxiety go away, they need to be replaced with something else. This one sounds very positive. I'm downloading away on Itunes now.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
Okay Everyone, Just keeping the PMA going here in my thread. It is Thursday after 3pm EST that means it is officially "Little Friday". What is "Little Friday" you may ask. A good friend coined the term a couple of years back as the beginning of the weekend. It is the one day a week that is always a good day for me, sort of a self affirming day, you know "Life is Good" and all that.
The W and I would usually get the kids to bed on time and have a late dinner afterwards with some wine and all we did was relax and listen to some music, and spend sometime together. Yes I miss that but it is still the one day a week, besides Sunday that I ALWAYS wake up and say "Today is going to be a good day!".
So Happy Little Friday to all my fellow DBers out there.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
BTW...Been listening to Bob Marley and Stephen Marley the past two days. Does wonders for the soul! I feel like a different man. Working on my dreadlocks now.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
Hey Missherlove - I'm going to try the Marley thing...tomorrow and yes, today is Friday. Thanks for the inspiration.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
