"She told me that if that was the case I should file the petition first and let my wife get served."
That is actually a great idea. The thing about DBing is doing what works and obviously what you're doing isn't working. Did you ever write a Solution Journal? That's the first thing many Newcomers forget to do.
If you get the petition filed, you are covered legally at least which seemed to be your worry.
Have you contacted her at all while she's gone? Tell her you need to get your mail and see what she says.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
