I do think it's hard for some to understand; I think many people's WAS here are usually kind of normal, if you respond in a positive way, they respond in a positive or at least neutral way. I know that NC's and my WAS are not like that at all. It is tough to understand; I've lived with this now for a couple years, and I still don't really understand it. It's very tough to deal with long-term that's for sure.
NC, I hope you don't leave, b/c I consider you a great friend and support here. I know you know that!!! ((((((nc)))))