You have got to change the way you are communicating with her. Everything you are doing sounds like you are trying to hold on to her, and she knows it.
It doesn't really matter what she says: "no, never". She is likely in as much turmoil as you. The difference is she's been working on it a lot longer. It's not fair, but you are being forced to catch up with her on her time frame.
You need to figure what Hitter wants, what will make Hitter a better, more complete person. Stop trying to save your relationship and start working on yourself. That way, no matter what the outcome, you will survive as a better person.
Everything you are doing now, she expects. Change everything, make changes that are good for Hitter. Don't consider how it makes your GF think or feel. Don't be an ass about it, just accept that your old relationship with her is over. If you have any chance of her coming back, you will need to form a new relationship with her.
Look the book is much more articulate than me. Read it, Read the threads here. Do it as soon as possible.
I'm sorry no one else has posted yet. Someone else will be along soon.
Hang in there.
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