I can only IMAGINE what my mother would do if she were still living. It would not be pretty, that's for sure. Don't you like to imagine what your mother would say to your H, though? It's satisfying in its way to think about it.
I feel the same way about my H's family. If we ever reconcile, it's going to take me a while to stop feeling awkward around them. I guess if we reconcile I'll have to also coach my side to make sure they don't let him have it at a family dinner.
I'm glad I wasn't the only one who thought that I might get some form of contact on Valentine's Day! I don't know how to take it that he texted the next morning. Would V Day be too hard for him? I'm sure things have been difficult for him, but I guess I have a hard time imagining that since he's the one who left.
I can only imagine how toned and athletic you are becoming from all that hiking around your city! I go through angry/borderline bitter periods when I think about how he's at his mother's with NO ADULT RESPONSIBILITIES. We don't have a mansion by any means, but taking care of approx. 3,000 sq. ft. alone is ridiculous. Throw in Boxer dog, turtle (his, of course), and stupid cats, and I have WAY more to manage than he does. Does your H have a separate checking account? Is his money just his "fun money" right now? Has he been diplomatically reminded lately of his grown-up duties?
I think there's nothing wrong with the easy, non-stressful path right now. You don't HAVE to do anything right now, but I understand that you want to be doing something about your situation. I posted a day or two ago on my thread that I went to a doctor last week about upper abdominal pain and learned that I most likely have an ulcer. I obviously have internalized a lot of my stress, and now I am a 33-year-old with an ulcer! I try to relax, but then I worry about having an ulcer AND being separated. This is not so good for stirring up the acids that further aggravate the ulcer. To help myself relax, I went last Saturday and got some great highlights, and then I went and bought two new pairs of tight jeans. I have had contractors at the house the last two afternoons to see about putting down hardwood floors, which would definitely pick up my spirits. I'm thinking of going to get a facial or massage this weekend, and I'm definitely due for a pedicure. In other words--keep doing your non-stressful thing if it helps YOU!! Don't develop an ulcer!!
