My emotions tell me to be caring etc.. But the 180's tell me not to.. I am soo confused.
Don't act out of your emotions during this time. Your emotions are too fragile and they will betray you. You are not to act cold-hearted or mean. You are not to be rude or unfriendly. You treat her like you would act around a business associate that you've known a long time. I started to say a co-worker but some of us are very sweet & friendly to co-workers so you might need to keep it more business-like.
Don't let her work related problems or problems she has brought upon herself become your problems (at this time). And...don't want that taken to the extreme. One man was told that and his W got sick and he wouldn't even help her! People have to stay balanced and use some common sense about these things.
If the WAW needs to talk and seeks you out, then listen to her and look right into her eyes when she speaks. But, you don't have to try to give her advice just b/c she's talking. You don't have to fix her problems. Sometimes women just need somebody to hear them.
Continue to hold back on emails & phone contacts. Remind yourself that it is pursuing at this time. When you pull back, it will draw her in.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
