To Sandi and all the others who have questioned the stand against further revelations of infidelity or other transgressions in the midst of the Retrouvaille weekend.
I don't think that Retrouvaille's stand is against all truthful confessions. I think what they were saying is, "You are here because you know you have problems in your marriage. Both spouses are aware of problems big enough to put you on the brink of divorce. Now, no new revelations at this time. Work with where you are; heal the relationship from the strikes that you already have against it."
It was certainly not a "have all the adultery you want in the future and don't confess to it because we frown on confessing" message. Deep, Puppy, Goldey, VH, BBJ, and anyone else who has been to the weekend, would you agree?
As for unresolved feelings of guilt for having a PA, I can't say that I spend any time thinking about it anymore. I still feel ashamed of being stupid and fogged out in love with someone who was mainly a figment of my imagination. The relationship I thought I had with OM was very one-sided. I expect he kept it going to feel that he was not being a hen-pecked husband to his wife. But he was never going to drop his wife and come rescue me in a white Porsche (updated imagery). I was mooning over a dream.
