Wife wants best of both worlds

[Cie la vie]

DW,

I hate being this way but I cannot get past some of her bad choices and behaviors.

I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal and I am very much the same on the rare occasion that I actually see my W. What isn't normal is having to refrain from exploding and tell them what we real think of their BS behavior. But again it's in our best interest as well as the kids to remain as civil as possible.

I look forward to the day when I can be around her with no emotional consequence.

Me too. Until than it's just going to be a tongue biting fest and Oscar winning acting.