I'm not sure you need to watch them from afar. Just because you don't have physical custody doesn't entail a total lack of visits.

You may well get them every weekend, or every other weekend, and every summer, or one month in the summer, or whatever.

Stay in or near the same town and go to public events (sporting events, school plays). Let them know where you'll be sitting.

I can't imagine going through this with kids younger than mine. My heart goes out to all of you.

M:40
W:40
2 teenagers
ILYBNILWY: 09 January 2010
soon to be walking away
my situation