Lotus, thanks for starting a thread. Out of all the good things I've heard about Retrovaille I have never heard that they encourage people to withhold things from the past....especially affairs. I guess I am in shock since it is a Christian M retreat. (I'm not Catholic either, so I have a hard time understanding.)
Anyway, I wanted to read your story and I am glad you took time to post it. I had wondered if you were the LBS based on a few of the posts I had read from you.....so I was surprised.
May I ask if you have felt that you have had to live with any guilt of the PA and did the OM ever contact you again?
I am glad that you and your H are doing well and I hope your M last many more years.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!