I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[Quart9]

So I saw an attorney today. I explained my sitch to her. We talked about my rights, what to expect, etc. She reviewed the docs that I filled out and calculated the amount of money that I would get in spousal support and showed me the monthly figure. It is way more than enough for me to live comfortably off of for the next two years while I'm in school. I was shocked - the attny even seemed shocked.

I told the attny I wanted to move back into W and I's apt. I asked here about my rights in doing that. She told me that I had every right to if my name was on the lease. She also told me something that I had heard before from my cop buddy - it would be very easy for my W to get a restraining order against me if my W did not want me there. She said she had seen it happen many times in her experience often under false pretenses. She told me that if I do have a restraining order put against me and my W files for divorce - I can kiss the spousal support goodbye. She said that the court will not award support to a man (or even a woman) when they have a restraining order against them from the supporter.

I dunno if I can take that risk. If my wife divorces me, my only real vindication against her would be her seeing almost half of her paycheck go to me for the next 2 years. The attorney told me it could be set up where it is garnished off of her paycheck and I wouldn't even have to worry about my wife sending the $ to me. That would put a dent in her 'ol partying it up single life style - unless douche OM foots the bill. That is of course unless he is not paying his own spousal support...