Well, after 5 years of marriage I've had enough. Filed for separation. Married late, and took some risks marrying someone from a much different background who would rather spend time with her friends and with her hobbies than being a wife. She is just a fair mother; I'll never get custody in the state where we currently reside (favors mothers 95% of the time) despite her uncleanliness and leaving kids unattended several times. She has no drug/alcohol abuse issues, which are about the only silver bullet for fathers winning custody where we reside. Have been advised to not even seek custody by four different lawyers.
Wife comes from a background where father wasn't around, raised by grandparents. Does not respect me now, and never has. I wish it had not taken over five years to come to my sense. Now, I can only hope to meet someone who wants to have a family and is capable of putting her husband and the family first.
In my mid-thirties now, I can only hope that there is time to recover and have a happy life with a good wife and children...
These days it seems so hard to choose that special someone wisely. Many women seem argumentative or greedy. I chose poorly. Hope to find some resources on these forums to help get me past the current situation, although I've already made the decision to split (second separation, not going to go through this again).
