No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

Since I'm on a roll, I think the biggest problem my W had with me that made the most sense was the issue of blame.

When I apologized for an argument, I always EXPECTED her to apologize too as I felt we would both be wrong. That was wrong of me and so for the past two years, if I did something wrong I apologized, end of story. Since this stuff happened, I don't recall her apologizing about anything, even for small things like picking up the kids late or having me wait for her. I thought she would say something after her boss said he tried to have me arrested/fired, etc. but she didn't say a word. But I don't expect apologies from her either. I just apologize for myself for things I felt I did wrong.

Since I'm on this "analyzing" state of mind, I guess I'll journal a few thoughts. I wonder if my W feels guilty of all that's been going on but hasn't said anything because that would mean that she was wrong. I wonder if she feels that she got on this train of getting D and even though she doesn't feel it's the right decision, she sees no other way than to stay on course. This is where a mentor would be good for her.

25yearsmlc, that's why I value posters like you, Puppy, gucci and the others. You get me to think about the things that I have done and could be doing to make MY life better.