"magic" never there.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Thanks for th reply HH

I'm refering to quantity. Looking back at our early years together we both lived with our Parents before we were married so our opportunities were limited to when we went away together.
She says when we did have the chance I didn't respond to her advancements. I'm not sure if that the case but that's her take on it. When we got married I remember wanting to ML on our honey moon, but I was turned down! Who goes on their honeymoon and doesn't have sex?
We has sex here and there but not as frequent as a married couple should.

I guess forn this point I was thinking maybe she had a bad sexual experience or possible was abused.

We do have 2 kids and once they came it seemed sex seemed to be gone.

Now I know we had issues in our M that led to our problems in bed. After reading many R books I realized she was making me feel shame through her interactions with me. She was pushing me away with her words and then she expected me to give love in return. I was shut down at that point.

So the cycle continued and nothing got better so she decided to leave.

I am now trying to work on M b/c I have learned so much and want to make it right. I still love her but see feels rejected and can't seem to get over that feeling.


Any advice on helping her feel wanted even though she is full of resentment?