New Post for Wifey

[Gardener]

Wifey!
I am so happy for you! Keep up the efforts (and the patience! )
Oh, and,

Sorry I haven't been any help to anyone lately, just trying to stay under the radar and keep my focus on patience.

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Don't apologize, work your marriage and forget about us,

[Tomato]

stay well, you.

thanks for the earlier chat as always.

thoughts of a sleepwalking KJ in my head.

I will re-ignite some prayers for you. I needed the push and you are the provider of it.

Ted

[Dudess]

Valentine's Day was not a highlight of our time together, because he "forgot" it was Valentine's Day. I told him I didn't need a card, just effort, and he would have to be deaf, dumb and blind to have forgotten. It is on tv, in the paper, on the radio, and in every store you walk into.

He did take me to dinner, replaced my hard drive for me in my computer, does things with me every weekend, etc. Well, anyhow, I just focus on patience.

You are right KJ. He didn't "forget" it was Valentines Day. He isn't dear, dumb and blind. He is telling you that he doesn't feel that way about you.

He has been living in your house for 2 months now and still . . . . just friends. Is he just using you until wood burning season is over?

And you tell him, "I didn't need a card, just effort"? WTF? How much effort does it take to get a card?

Focusing on "patience" is getting you a truckload of sexual frustration and a 'husband' who sees you as mommy and/or a friend.

Time to shake things up girlfriend.

[The Wifey]

Valentine's Day was not a highlight of our time together, because he "forgot" it was Valentine's Day. I told him I didn't need a card, just effort, and he would have to be deaf, dumb and blind to have forgotten. It is on tv, in the paper, on the radio, and in every store you walk into.

He did take me to dinner, replaced my hard drive for me in my computer, does things with me every weekend, etc. Well, anyhow, I just focus on patience.

You are right KJ. He didn't "forget" it was Valentines Day. He isn't dear, dumb and blind. He is telling you that he doesn't feel that way about you.

He has been living in your house for 2 months now and still . . . . just friends. Is he just using you until wood burning season is over?

And you tell him, "I didn't need a card, just effort"? WTF? How much effort does it take to get a card?

Focusing on "patience" is getting you a truckload of sexual frustration and a 'husband' who sees you as mommy and/or a friend.

Time to shake things up girlfriend.

He leaves Sunday morning to spend a week and half with his parents in Florida. What would you suggest? Rape him in his sleep? Give him an ultimatum and watch him walk back out the door?

Believe me, Dudess, I am not a wimp and know what I am doing. I know my husband and I know me. The man that was totally withdrawn a year ago is not the man in the house now. Everyone has to do what works for them. It does not always mean strictly the DB script.

I am doing more of what works and less of what doesn't. Would I have loved to have had Valentines more romantic? Absolutely. Are things getting better? Definitely. Would I have wanted him to spend Valentines with someone else? Or alone? You can answer that.

My husband is at home. Hallmark didn't make any money on him this year, but I got something much better. I don't tell y'all everything you know.

[kara]

Wifey

I was really happy to read your update. I have wondered how you were doing and it was good to read your news.

[The Wifey]

Hey Kara,

You are right. This woman is doing good. I'm in Grad school now full time, and that also takes so much time. I hope you are doing fabulous!

[The Wifey]

I dropped my husband off at the airport this morning for a trip to visit his parents for a week and a half. Had breakfast with my son before heading home.

I'm going to busy with school stuff, but I am also going to take the time to re-read DR again. I won't be calling him while he's gone. I just want him to have a break and honestly I need one, too!

[SpyBunny]

Enjoy your break, Wifey- it's always nice to have some "me" time. Use it to its full advantage!
Hugs, Bunny

[The Wifey]

Oh yeah. I can live like a bachelor princess while he's gone. : ) Think eating icecream in my jammies and sleeping in. Of course I have school and homework and the dog, and numerous GAL things, but there is definitely going to be icecream in the mix.

[The Wifey]

Its been a busy couple of days. I did our taxes on Monday, had class yesterday, and ran errands most of today. H called Monday, but I was in the middle of the taxes. I said hello and hoped things were going well. He said they were. I said, ok, I have to go and finish the taxes. Talk to you soon.

Had a text yesterday that he was on his way to buy more blocks for enlarging his Mom's patio. I didn't respond, because it didn't appear to need one. Today I had a text that the porch is done, Mom is happy. Again, I didn't respond. Its nice to know Mom got her porch a little larger. I just don't want to jump to text.

Texting gets old; if he wants to talk he can call. If he doesn't want to talk I will enjoy the sweet silence. I've been feeding the deer in my yard and I love to watch them. The birds are very active when its cold. It surprises me because I would think they would be hunkered down. Then there is the hours of homework.........

Saturday I am in a Scrabble tournament fundraiser for Literacy Volunteers. I am looking forward to it.