Friends:wife moves out in 2 weeks! I've avoided R talk, but some was inevitable. She said she wants me to come down for the move, and visit every few weeks when i can. I'm waiting for an appt with lawyer. Is there Anything besides detachment, GAL..? i can be doing, saying,etc... I'm trying so hard to be not clingy, needy. But i'm really depressed. HURTING!! thanks
.... feelings, nothing more than feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelings.....
Did she decide to move out or did you decide she should move out?
well we won't hold our breath, we know this is hard for you Rob but the longer you take to do this, the longer you're going to have to deal with these issues.
Also, one important thing, if after you do this and she gets angry and "rejects" you, you just smile at her, don't get angry, upset or emotional if she rejects you, in fact, look forward to this, assume 100% that this will happen. But stick to the script I gave you and follow it up with, "look you don't have to do any of this but you don't think I'm going to live for the rest of my life without sex do you? C'mon you're a smart girl, I'm a guy, and us guys enjoy good sex. I don't think we're going to feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed together because I've gotten aroused by all this arguing and sex talk, it's probably better that you sleep on the couch, you don't want to be in the same bed with me tonight wink wink"
No getting angry, you smile, you expected her response, it's almost funny because she did it exactly as we thought she would and when she gets out of the bed to sleep on the couch, throw a pillow at her and ask her to close your door and then proceed to occupy the entire space of the bed by stretching your body.
And don't you dare apologize or say sorry or something else foolish and wussy like.
what became of this?
Did you try it?
Or did you wimp out?
For what it's worth, your wife sounds very confident and decisive, she knows what she wants to do and she does it, she doesn't hesitate, ask for approval, she just does it. That's attractive.
I am getting tired of the countdown, as if you are saying, "Please help, I only have this much more time and then it is over" then you do not do what is given to you, that would be absoluely perfect, instead saying, "well I don't feel like I could do it anyway, or the meds are effecting my mojo, then you talk about how depressed you are in the same sentence. The meds are keeping my mojo down, but they have no effect on my depression?
ITS NUT CUTTIN TIME, tell her you have decided that she is moving out in three days, Tell her to quit F%^&*ing cuddling with you unless she wants to bump the nasties, Tell her one night that you have a date with some hot chick from the gym, But for GOD"S sake DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT! YOU ARE LOOSING HER SITTING ON YOUR BUTT!!!!!
hi all...i'm back after a few days of book reading, resting and reflecting. Reading my post again and other's as well. i will post as soon as i have something to ask. Feel free to comment, thanks
