OP, I didn't say anywhere in my post that you were trying to "fix" your mom. :)I wasn't seeing it that way; your post was clear on what you were doing. I was making an observation or two based on what I was reading. I know several people in a similiar situation.
And, actually, you're doing right to let her know how you feel; anytime you don't like something it's your responsibility to let that person know. Doing what works, and discarding what doesn't.
Was the book I posted above pretty much what you're looking for in the way of an answer to your question? I dragged it over here so you wouldn't have to go looking for my thread.
Hope all is well.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
