First Piecing Thread

[fightingirish]

Wonderful!!

[Hope4us]

Hey everyone. I just thought I'd come out and see what was going on in DB land and realized it's been 3 weeks since I posted. Must be a record.

But I guess that's a good thing. No need to post means everything is going well. What I keep thinking is, when is it time to say farewell. Not sure I'm ready to do that, but I can see it being longer and longer between posts. I feel a little bad about that because so many people helped me through this mess and I'd love to return the favor, but I feel like it keeps taking me back to a bad place and clouds my judgement and PMA and understanding of all the GOOD things going on now that I feel like I may need to make an exit from DB at some point.

We still have little bumps in the road, but the difference now is we talk about them. W still is having periods down time from what I assume is guilt. But she's not in those funks very long. I do know she suffers from winter blahs and we've been getting hammered with snow the last two weeks so I'm sure that's part of it.

A week from tomorrow I surprise her with the trip to sunny Fla. I've been pretty good at talking about the trip to the Mtns she thinks we're taking, talking about the weather forecasts for there, etc, so I'm sure she'll be surprised. Got her a new pair of diamond earrings for our 25th anniversary while we're in Fla. She lost one of the current set she has that I got her for our 5th anniversary. I know it upset her, but the pair I got her for the 25th are larger diamonds and I'm sure she'll be thrilled.

I have a couple of other surprises for her while we're at Disney. Having flowers delivered to our room. Have a special cruise on this really cool boat to watch the fireworks at Epcot on our anniversary. We've done this cruise a number of times in the past and W LOVED it. I'm sure she'll love it this time. Have dinner reservations at a nice restaurant near the boat dock and after dinner we'll just walk out and get on the boat for the fireworks cruise.

W's friend M at work is having more and more trouble with her H. M is preparing to move out. Their marriage started out as an A and her H has cheated on her at least once since they were married and with the things W is telling me he's pulling now, I'm sure he's at least in an EA now. It's funny how now that I've experienced this first hand, how easy it is to spot what's going on. Yeah, their marriage as lasted 17 years, but when it starts out as an A, there has to be a point where trust becomes an issue. And it's here for them now. I feel sorry for M, but not really as anyone who starts a relationship in that manner gets what they deserve. Maybe a little callous of me, but don't have a lot of sympathy for affariages.

Talk to ya all later.

[kat727]

I am glad to see that things are really coming together for both of you. You put in so much time and effort! So enjoy your 25th Anniversary in your favorite place in the whole world.

Proud of you. hugs, kat

[rockedworld]

Thanks for the positive update... gives the rest of us hope!

[MrBond]

Hope4Us,

Glad to hear your sitch is moving in such a positive way. I remember how we remarked that our W's could have been twin sisters based on how similar they acted.

Could you take a look at my sitch when you have a chance? I need some input as to what to do next. You can read all the drama that's been going on in my sitch and I was wondering at what point should I try even asking her if she'd be willing to work things out.

Thanks!

[Nurse Husband]

Hope4Us;

Puppy Dog Tails sent me to your thread for your past experience. The topic was how you told you kids of your W affair. My kids are 16 and 14. The 16 D I feel already knows about the affair or has a good idea. After all she is a woman in training.

Where would I find that part of you thread to glean that information? Thanks for you time.

Nurse Husband

[Hope4us]

Wow. Thanks Kat, you're the best.

A compliment like that from you makes me

[Hope4us]

Thanks Rocked.

Like I said, I'm kind of torn. I truly want to pay it forward with what I've learned, but I struggle because I feel it sets me back.

Maybe if I just restricted myself to Piecing it would work?

You're doing great btw. Thanks for checking in.

[Hope4us]

Thanks Mr. Bond. Can I call you JB?

I'll see if I can make some time and get caught up Bond. I'm really swamped at work as one of the supervisors who reports to me just got transferred, so I'm doing the work of two. It might be a few days before I can take a look.

[MrBond]

No problem H4U. I am really happy that things are working out for you.