Hi everyone. I had thought about not starting another thread b/c I don't really consider meself in piecing any longer, but several of you have said something trying to reach me....so I'll have a home place again for anyone who wants to drop by.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Curious, at what point DO things completely change from 'piecing' to reconcilling? I concider piecing as one day at a time until the notion you'll be back together is unquestionably eminant. I've been "living" with (x)W and kids now for almost all of the last month and we've haven't had any relationship, M or D related issues at all.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I don't know that you can point to a particular time and say that is when we stop piecing and are considered in full reconciliation. I think it slowly emerges from one into the other. I would expect piecing for at least a year of hard effort, and in some cases two, depending on the stitch. I use to not tell people that b/c I didn't want to discourage them, but most get so impatient and think they should be seeing larger results of their work efforts too quickly. Time, time, and more time is what is needed.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Hi sandi2! I was wondering if you wouldn't mind stopping by my post and taking a look at my sitch. I have been advised by several members to move back into my W and I's apt.
She is a WAW in an EA/possible PA. I moved out before I knew this per her request in an effort to give her the space she needed/temp separation. Now she has decided she wants a divorce and I am concerned about moving back (without her invite) because I think that, though it will help my self respect, it will ruin our chances @ reconciliation.
I would greatly appreciate your imput based on your experience!
Sandi2-thank you for taking a look at my sitch and your reply. I was just wondering why you yourself never actually endorsed my moving back into W and I's apt uninvited?
Also, do you know of any other sitch's/members/threads where the LBS was manipulated into moving out and then moved back in without WAS approval? I have read many threads but I have not found one with a sitch like this. Thanks!
Me-32 W-29 No kids ILYBNILWY 11.20.09 Separated 01.10.10 Discovered EA 01.13.10 W admitted to PA 02.21.10 I filed for D 03.09.10
Could you check my last post and give me some guidance. I have more to post about today but I first wanted to get your opinion on my latest post before adding more to it? Link is in the Sig.
Thanks,
Ken
Me48 WAW46 M24 yrs S24 D21 D19 EA disc 6/09 2nd EA Fall 09 I move out 11/12/09 W and I switch 1/14/10 D Filed 3/17/10 W moves in with OM 6/8/10 D Final 6/21/10
