HDWife trying for happier life

[HDwife]

Thanks Hap - gonna go see if the library has Heyer on the shelves :-)

eryn - I have vowed to stop pursuing sex. However, I am not sure that would look like no hinting as I think I need to learn how to be "open to having sex" without being overt about demanding sex. ie, I am trying very very hard to be a "bunny" instead of a "cougar". The playboy bunny is a perfect depiction of the coquettish image I am trying to learn to attract my husband.

My husband has noticed that I have stopped asking for sex for the last week, and from what I can tell, he appreciates that I have backed off. He is definitely paying more attention to me, albeit not sexually.

I have done actually a real 180 by responding to a grumpy morning stupid comment out of his mouth with "no sex for you for a while for that". I am not one to withhold sex. Rather, I would always be happy to "kiss & make up" and the unfortunate resulting dynamic is one where he is now giving me a present by having sex, as opposed to it being a mutual pleasure process. So, now I have also given up sex altogether even if he initiates it, at least for lent (guess I'm going Catholic schoolgirl in addition to bunny). That should shake things up...

thanks for your support - I really appreciate the encouragement!! (its NOT easy modifying my natural inclinations even when I know that the behavior will be rewarded in the long run).