You can't control what happens in C if he goes. Roll the dice and let them fall where they may or not. I agree with the poster who said that even if your H goes in there and gives the C an entire hour on why he is SURE he's divorcing you, it doesn't mean he ultimately will. He might. But this board is full of people whose partners have been saying that but not doing it for a year.
Yes, him going could cause him to "solidify" a bunch of notions and call you and give you a huge speech. Whether he follows through with that speech three weeks later is another thing. I could be wrong, but if he's goign to come to a quick final decision, he'll do it with a buddy playing a sport too. Right?
