Just did some anti-DB ing with my bipolar mother(78). She has been off of her meds now for about 6-8 weeks and I am getting tired of her calling me on my 800 phone # telling me how much money she is spending that she doesn't have. So I told her did you call your Psych., have you been taking your meds.,stop spending money you don't have. I finally got her to hang up on me. Maybe she will leave me alone now!
See DB'ing works and so does anti-DB'ing!
LOL! @ "Anti-DB'ing"!
Nope, she probably won't stop calling you...she'll forget what she did, wait for another time, call you again. And tell you the WHOLE spiel again.
We each choose our reactions to what people either say or do to us. And it's hard as heck to not snap back at people that just don't want to listen or respect our right not to have to listen to their problems that they caused for themselves.
It's up to you whether you answer the phone or not in a way you're in control whether you see it or not. I'm not sure standard boundaries would work in this instance due to her age.
I feel for you, though. It's hard to deal with our parents as they get older. Take care.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
And tell you the WHOLE spiel again.
