Potential infidelity is the kicker Eric. If it were not for that, your waffling would not be so intense, eh?
Yet, if your wife came to you sometime here in the near future and expressed remorse and a desire to fix what was broken, would you be able to work through the potential infidelity issue?
I'm just saying this...
When we find out our wife is involved with someone else, we are crushed. It's the ultimate betrayal and it hurts like nothing else ever has. Part of us wants vengeance, part wants to believe that she committed the deal breaker, part just wants to curl up into a ball.
I think we all go through that.
And yet, many, many people find the ability to overcome such a difficult issue and manage to rebuild a marriage one day.
I can't imagine that it's been long enough, that you've reached a good enough place personally yet, to know which way you will go.
Don't burn bridges now.
We want action and decisions, and we want them now. (except if we really think about the actions and decisions we would get right NOW, we wouldn't really want them at all)
Time.
Work. On you.
Strengthen yourself and put your focus where it can do some good, for both you and your kids.
Work on becoming someone she would be a fool to leave (knowing that right now she's foolish enough to choose to leave - but her outlook will change with time and distance too).
This is a process. Painful. But a process.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
