Right now, my H is taking a nap on our couch. He ask if I wouldn't mind because he did not get a lot of sleep last night. The reason for no sleep: (1) he is anxious over being deployed to Afghanistan soon, (2) he has number of things he needs to go done between now and then at work, and (3) the state of our marriage. All of these things apparently kept him up last night or at least that's what he said.
When he came in today, he went through his mail and began compiling his items to do taxes. So while he was doing this, I was online to check work messages in the office. He came in and asked me if he should leave because "apparently" I was not happy to see him (no, I did not run to the door, nor did I run into his arms). I just said a nice "Hello H - How are you doing". He must have hoped that I would have given more than that...:)
I took everyone's advice and dressed in something nice and something he would never expect.
He than asked if I had anything he could eat because he hadn't ate all morning. I offered to mix a salad and baked a small serving of salmon. He said that would be nice.
When I was gathering all ingredients from the refrigerator, my H turned to me and said, "It is really good to see you". He then said he plans to be here all day and all evening (not sure if he meant staying the night) for us to do taxes, talk, and spend time together (even though right now, he is snoring away on the couch).
But before he went to sleep, he said that he was glad he was here because he wanted to give both of us the opportunity to spend time together because he DID NOT want to make a mistake about our M. But then in the next breath, he says "I care for you, but that doesn't mean we should be together or that I want to be with you."
What the HECK? Who is this man? Where is my REAL H?
So I decided to log in to let you guys know what has happened so far and to see if you had any additional advice on how to handle his last sentence...This is trying even when I thought his actions began to indicate positive movement.
Confused...but I am really happy to see him!
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
