Cake eating is when the WAS does what they want to do without any consideration for the LBS's feelings or self-esteem.
I think you're dwelling on this moving back thing too much. The moving back is a small piece of the overall picture. Overall your W is saying that she doesn't give a flying f*ck about you. Besides fooling around, she left without telling you so that you can't even get your mail. That alone should have been reason to go back.
It comes down to CONTROL. Do you like her controlling you like this? You feel like you have to do something in response to something she does. Be the initiator of an action rather than just being reactive.
Get your financial life straight first so that whether or not she comes back YOU will be okay. Then go back to what is yours.
It's not being vindictive or mean. It just is. Right now it sounds like you are looking for someone to validate you not going back home. If you don't want to go back, then don't. If you feel like you don't want to rock the boat, then don't. If you don't mind her going out and having sex with other guys, then don't do anything.
By not doing anything so far by choice, is it making YOUR LIFE happier?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
