Moving on with my life!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

that's right, you do not need to fear this about calling him first. if he had unsupervised visits, then it would be different. But he doesn't. so just don't call him, and have fun that night and don't worry about xSIL. who cares if she tells him. and when he gripes, you tell him that until the courts change their decision about his supervised visits, you will be contacting others to watch D. period.

don't be fearful, this is one of those times where it's just too bad for him. it is the law.


and on the reply to his older daughter problem. I know some of you will say, it isn't your problem to deal with, but this is my thinking. this man is going to be in your life forever unless he totally skips out and disappears. He is your D's Dad. no matter what, there is going to be some type of R between them, either good or bad. I would like to think it could eventually be good. So, if you have opportunity to help guide him down the right path, then IMHO, I would do so. and I would get him to thinking and questioning himself. not telling him what to do.

and again, this is just MHO, and I understand if you would rather stay out.

he says "I think I might not go to her game, since she never does blah blah" then I might say "how do you think that might affect your R with her? do you think it would help her get closer to you or further away?" "what is your goal for your R with her and what do you think you can do to get that connection back?" "what do you think her reaction might be?" stuff like that.

just a thought. because whatever he is doing to that daughter, he is going to do to your daughter. unless he learns something by then.