Sometimes men don't understand how alone women feel in their Ms. I've fantasized about having EAs and PAs, not because I don't love my M or want our M to work, but because the loneliness got so painful. I think that "being the better option" probably does work in cases where the W is in the process of giving up hope of having her needs met in the M, but hasn't completely given up hope.
I'm sure there are probably some examples. I've just personally never seen any.
