Hey guys. Tough weekend - LS papers signed on Thursday - moved out on Sat - Valentine's Day on Sun - jut a whole load of stress - and work is beyond crazy right now too. My 11 yr old daughter doesn't want to come to the apartment - and I know I'll have to bring her along slowly. I've tried to switch my gears down to one hour at a time - just so much to deal with - switched realtors - will have an open house next week - washer in house broke down - had to replace - getting a car for my son -issues with that - just overwhelmed right now. When I get back to taking it one day at a time - I'll come back on. I know everyone says this is hard and it will get better - just in the thick of things at the moment and waiting a bit for the storm to pass so I can catch my breath............
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
Thanks. Absolutely overwhelming day - but I made it. Will sleep good tonight - I'm drained. Sense of accomplishment tonite that I made it thru a difficult day. W is in Florida with my daughter to visit her parents, and despite it all - I do miss her. Just hanging out with the dogs tonight - but thats ok - getting some downtime and peace to face tomorrow. Any changes with any of your challenges out there?
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
You seem to be going beyond any challenges that I made! You have amazed me, Tom. I know very few people who could have managed what you have. When some of the load has lifted, you would be good to help some newcomers and talk to them about how to face more than they think they are capable of doing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Don't give me too much credit - I am really struggling to make it thru each day. The LS papers and moving out really hit me emotionally harder than I thought - and I am truly missing my partner in life more than I thought - its really hard to stay focused. My 180 is going ok - I don't text, call, or email - I try to maintain the positive outcome in front of W and others, although I found myself really angry with W after this weekend - so angry comments did slip out of me at her before she left for Florida - in the past I would've regretted hurting her with words - but now don't feel that - I guess I am changing inside too and maybe that was good to vent at her. In either case, it happened, can't change it, so just keep moving on to the next day. Talk later - hoping to have a better day today.....
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
Don't give me too much credit - I am really struggling to make it thru each day. The LS papers and moving out really hit me emotionally harder than I thought - and I am truly missing my partner in life more than I thought - its really hard to stay focused.
Tom, Let me give you credit and you deserve it!! I know in my sitch I was doing all the wrong things even after I had read DR, it took a second read and lurking the boards for a month and a half before I started to do things right. You are in the storm and you are doing fine. I think you will find the separation a relief b/c the rollercoaster starts to level a little bit. You will start to feel better with each new day. Take care of yourself.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Checking in - doing ok. Still missing my W inside - notice that I seem to waffle between Anger (I always seem to feel stronger and motivated and confident) and being "Sad" (when I miss W and I guess feel like dirt...). When feeling that sadness months ago - I would've spent the night crying so maybe rollercoaster is flattening out a bit - I hope so - it really is a killer to feel this pain inside. I am finding ANYTHING to do to keep busy and keep my mind off of LS and W - its hard like you've all said. Will have dinner with my older daughter tonight - looking forward to that. Otherwise - will look to keep busy today cleaning - running errands - etc. Later........
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
