He said he is done!!

[jasper67]

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I feel the same way. It's so awkward ending a conversation by "take care."

UGH- but it's even worse when you say ILY b/c you want to, and get the reply "I know..." or something like that.

I wish I could still say it to say it, knowing that W will not repeat it. I just don't want to come across as needy or puruant.

i'm glad you kept it up beat and focused...i know that is tough too, especially if you're not fully detatched.

Keep up the good work

[lostnotgone]

posting my Goals for the next 2 weeks here - received some really good advise from sgctxok.

1. H will smile at me
2. H will and I will laugh
3. He will acknowledge the changes I have made within myself.

These are things that he has done in the past month - but I feel I need to see them more before I set more goals.

How will I know things are getting better?
1. H will call me
2. H will ask how my day was.
3. H will ask to spent some time with me.

Advise if I am getting this right. I am great at setting goals for work and my employees! this is new to me. I always just went through life.. big part of my problem.

[lostnotgone]

I had posted yesterday WHY did he call and the wondering made me lose focus for the day. I am going to take these as my baby steps and quit wondering why - just that he did it!

How will I know things are getting better?
1. H will call me (called me yesterday in response to an email about D16 - instead of responding to the email)
2. H will ask how my day was. (on the call yesterday asked what I was doing and seemed to want to keep the conversion going)
3. H will ask to spent some time with me.

[jasper67]

looks good to me- I have seen similar posts from other members.
You are wise to challenge yourself to quit wondering- Lord knows that's the most difficult part of any of this- and for all of us.

Looks like your attacking things w/ a clear view and being tru to yourself at the same time.

[lostnotgone]

How will I know things are getting better?

Next week is my Birthday - my H will call and wish me a Happy Birthday.

[lostnotgone]

I have just realized something - the appeal my H must have to the OW... or at least some of them. He has NO responsibility to her. There is no worry about kids homework, no worries about what repairs need to happen to the house - no worries about the household bills... WOW!!

Positive note. I sent him the confirmation on the homeschool evalulation - no phone call back - but I did ask if he had received the picture I had sent of our daughter on his phone.. he had not (guess that is why he did not respond). He tells me he has no internet at his house so he can not check FB... so I sent - he responded - "No I did not get very nice face.lol"

Here goes the dang wondering - wonder if he hates that he missed his daughters BDAY dinner as a family??

Not responding to his last email.

[lostnotgone]

Need some advise - my girls are suppose to go to their Dad's this weekend. I do not feel good about sending them with H still very much having contact with OW. Seems that there may be another as well (not confirmed). There is another number being texted and called A LOT!!

Do I confront him again - how do I do this? Do I leave it alone and send them ? Do I tell him I just don't feel good about the girls going. The other number that is being called is NOT far from where he moved to!!

[lostnotgone]

H called this morning - let it go to VM!! have not called him back and not sure when I will! The anger has come back today. I found that he has been paying for OW cell phone on his account!! When he has not given me sh** for the kids since he left.

Also, can not tell if this is another woman or if there are now 2. Why can I not let this go?

[lostnotgone]

H called again and BAD conversion! Did not go good at all. I asked to do me favor and not have any conversions with OW when kids are around - he lied and said he was not talking with her anymore! LIE I saw his cell bill (did not tell him this). It went down hill from there!

I know he was yelling at me bc of quilt. How could he know how I feel, I never cheated on him - never entertained the idea! He actually said he could look at himself in the mirror now! HOW the H*** does he do that?

[lostnotgone]

H is picking the kids up tonight

Mini goal for today:

1. Smile and be positive!

BAD SLIP yesterday